During my school years, I was bullied frequently but my salvation was escaping it by going home when the bell rang. While some abuse occurred away from school, it was minor compared to what children and even some adults face today. Online, they are constantly subjected to abuse without respite. Toxic schoolyards and workplaces are now part of our homes. Abstinence has minimal effectiveness when FOMO keeps us connected. We conveniently blame technology, but bullying is a people problem now exacerbated by technology. We need a fundamental change to mindset and culture beyond technical controls. Virtual actions cause physiological harm.